When I focus on my children, when I intentionally respond to them in a way that's congruent with the kind of father I want to be, everything is good. Little conflicts. No elevating of arguments. Everyone is heard, respected. Happy kids, happy me.
The problem is; I don't always give them my intentional, congruent response. I often will react, or simply let my habits present the example my children are watching. The scary thing is, I don't even know how often that is. That's kinda the point. When I'm unconsciously living - I don't know it.
Excluding the extreme examples... Anyone can be an outstanding parent - when they're trying, consciously. But mostly it's our habits that raise our children.
Lets stand for the best within us. Lets all do a little better tomorrow; One little conscious choice victory at a time.